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/ les discuss everything for their finances spending money each of you should have'? -What kind of financial risks are you and your partner confortable taking when investing'? -How will you handle the money and debts you both bring into the marriage'? "Ib help newlyweds and soon-to- be-weds plan their financial union, Myvesta.org has released a free pub- lication called Marriage and Money: ttow to talk to your new spouse about finances• It can be down- loaded at Myvesta.org, or for $5 by sending payment to Marriage Publication, Myvesta.org, P.O. Box 8587, Gaithersburg, MD 20898-8587. of couples tie the season they may eachother inside while a husband and each other s favorite :, or favorite movie, it for them to know habits. we are much more topics like sex about money," president and co- n nonprofit organization. just starting out or JUSt got engaged, should be a top Rhode one of the first couple should do is compare spending habits. "Every person has a different spending style," Rhode said. "We see a lot of couples where one person is a spender and the other is a saver, lt's best to discuss these differences and find out how each person handles their money. This keeps things honest and open, which will help to awfid surprises later on." When discussiing the types of spending patterns that each partner has, it is a good idea to discuss lifestyle too. According to Rhode, some of the best topics to discuss are: Mtow much of your income do you want to put in savings? -How will you decide how much a good photographer, can make or break your day is over, the pho- the only record of your photog- ment worth decided to get mar- .an approximate m searching for The better ones into the future, so rom friends and so be a valuable tool .photographers. ', is people you and look at other Make sure and album color Make sure the and clear and and dust free. to photogra+- on a luring the week. before y day for o should show you albums on dis- bums from in the € finished albums the albums the quality, in low light church. has a writ- you If the stu- Verbal clams, get contract will what they ago. The plan you ˘ou have the also name Who will be shoot- personally A good is patient, Y and always of person can action. king for some- at trends in Some people pictures turned Unposed candid and photo- ournalism and might bridesmaids in the rain, or around out- several seconds to recharge. When you return from your honey- moon. your wedding proofs will most likely be waiting for you to choose the right shots. Some questions to ask yourself when choosing the pictures include: Are everyone's eyes open? -Did someone look away'? Ms the lighting nice and white, or dark and off color? ~Is there anything in the back- ground that will look bad when blown up? ~On natural lighting shots without flash, is the exposure good or too dark'? ~Does lhe pictures make you smile when you see it'? Pictures look different when they are blown up, so make sure you really like each 8xI0. Once you decide which proofs to blow up to 8x10 for the album, make sure you have all the shots you want. When they come back, review each shot carefully with the photographer, as it wilt be perma- nent in your album. In order to save money, use some of the money you get from your wed- ding to pay for a $200-$300 album upgrade. Use disposable wedding cameras on tables at the reception and develop them at a discount store. Book ceremony and reception close together, choose a studio package with the lowest coverage hours and haggle down the cost with the studio before signing the contract. Another way to save is to try to get a bulk price frorfi the studio if you will be ordering a large number of prints from the same picture• And make sure your proofs from the wedding are included b COLLECTION can provide a from the way t, and make your of a stun- the bride and and star- try a different of away some black listen care- direction. your wed- ,tographer in getting Your when the up and as their lOtographer's hich take Here comes the bride Anyone who has ever been involved with planning a wedding knows of the turbulence and tears encountered betre a couple can be united, but arranging a second wed- ding can have more serious and fraught issues to deal with. Questions arise during the plan- ning of a second wedding, such as "Should my ex-in-laws be invited so they can see their granddaughter as a bridesmaid?" and "My step-father gave me away the first time-is it okay to ask him to do it again'?" Much of the difficulty in planning second weddings involves children from a previous relationship. One thing to keep in mind is that it is never possible to please all of the people all of the time. For children, a wedding can stir up painful memories about the first family and the breakup which followed. Some children harbor a secret hope that their parents will get back together again, and the re-mar- riage of a parent ends this hope. The news of a lbrthcoming wed- ding should be discussed between all the adults. The cooperation of an ex- partner, if at all possible, is most important when deciding who will tell the children and when they will be told. To marry without a parent's approval is one thing, but to marry without acceptance by your children, of any age, can be very painful. Children need to know whether they will be affected and what, if any- thing, will change for them. Research has shown that children not included in at least part of the ceremony often find it difficult to accept the steppar- ent. One dilemma may be for a child who thinks her "other" parent may feel left out and not want the child to take part in the second wedding. The children may feel the parent will see ...again this as an act of betrayal. These wor- ries need to be considered, and add to the importance of holding a discus- sion between the child's parents. A second wedding can also add meaning to the phrase "family wed- ding". Many second-time brides have contributed to the planning by includ- ing the children on their wedding day. Finally, spare a thought tbr the new groom or bride for whom this may be a first wedding. It all adds up to the same thing, the necessity of careful planning and preparation beforehand. A wedding is a landmark in any fami- ly and those adults and children who have been burned by the fallout of an earlier divorce or death of a parent will be particularly sensitive to the meaning of the occasion, with some planning, a lot of discussion, and a lit- tle bit of luck, it will be a day memo- ries are made of. Jobs grooms can do to help with wedding planning Many grooms-to-be think that slip- interested in being the person to pick ping the diamond ring on their out a great limousine or classic car for in the price, and it is listed on the con- honey's finger is the only job they the couple to be escorted around in on tract, have to do in planning for the wed- the Big Day. ding. As they watch the women they Whether the caterer is handling the ,n ___ ,/ ,,vwv/ t,' ''''f" .., j-C]D'..t'*""  " -- ,,,w v [" o,.,.t/f..%,ff,/,t / /k't"g'€  love running around at breakneck booze, or the engaged couple is on speed, trying to plan the wedding, their own, a groom may be able to The staffat Carlson Drug will be happy to help you what on earth can they do to help? help here by choosing refreshing bev- Even though it seems that in a erages for the wedding guests. select items for your bridal registry. • whirlwind of flowers, decorations and The honeymoon is a traditional gowns, there is nothing a groom can responsibility of the groom that could • ' Picture Frames ' Crystal :+:: add to planning the wedding, there is. possibly be the best job of the entire ' Black ttills Gold '' Home Decor O Many couples find it easier and more planning process. Organizing and fun to share in wedding planning planning a glorious, post-stress ' Kitchen & Lace Linens ', Glassware responsibilities, blowout vacation is a fun duty for the A groom that is interested in music groom. Carlson Drug can be helpful by volunteering to Finally, business-minded grooms research bands or DJs for the recep- may be able to assist their brides-to-be Your Locally Owned and Operated tion. Once the groom has done the with the paperwork, such as making legwork of gathering information, the sure contracts are signed, confirming ......._...._.. ,,_ , ,,. /nrl.ny couple can interview or review music vendors, and keeping track of pay- =Ighue choices together to make the final merits and receipts, which are all very decision, important in wedding planning. Any groom who likes cars may be + Ortonville • 320-839-6102 II li I IIII PROM IS S  I ...when you make yours, remember ours. ' | LIFETIME DIAMOND GUARANTEE OUR OWN LASER IDENTIFICATION TECHNOLOGY DJ. & Karaoke sand@maxminn.com Z ., .. IN-STORE SERVICE & REPAIR :L. : MUSIC FOR ALL , +'OU. OWNm*MONDCOLO% il : 2 MANUFACTURING CENTER  ", "A trusted name since 1959"  (a.k...a. Rock'N'RollFarmer) ,,-  RIEE00 os e 320 325-5190 or ,AyI .. .., .,, je ry. 1-800-939-6109 l ,,,- 9;5:30, Sat. 9-4 k ,=.- -.- .-. --.. --- = CLIP-N-SAVE • m -.- --.- ..-. --. JI It's Slmplel Just come into our store now! (before March 31, 2003) Register your wedding for anytime during 2003 and you will save 10% on each tuxedo rental. Free socks with each tuxedo rentall You can finalize sizes and tuxedo styles at any time. COME IN TODAY! Rent 7 Tuxedos, Get Groom's Tux FREE/ Ask about HALF OFF Ringbearer's Tuxedot Troy wants you to have a great time on your special day! O00nc00n' T00aeEs. o. • will help you plan the details of your wedding reception • offers a thorough pre-wedding consultation • has an extensive music library for a variety of tastes and ages • will get your guests movin" • will be professional • offers 10 years experience Troy Ackerman DJ and Owner www. dancin-tracks, com 5, 2003 INDEPENDENT Page 7b / les discuss everything for their finances spending money each of you should have'? -What kind of financial risks are you and your partner confortable taking when investing'? -How will you handle the money and debts you both bring into the marriage'? "Ib help newlyweds and soon-to- be-weds plan their financial union, Myvesta.org has released a free pub- lication called Marriage and Money: ttow to talk to your new spouse about finances• It can be down- loaded at Myvesta.org, or for $5 by sending payment to Marriage Publication, Myvesta.org, P.O. Box 8587, Gaithersburg, MD 20898-8587. of couples tie the season they may eachother inside while a husband and each other s favorite :, or favorite movie, it for them to know habits. we are much more topics like sex about money," president and co- n nonprofit organization. just starting out or JUSt got engaged, should be a top Rhode one of the first couple should do is compare spending habits. "Every person has a different spending style," Rhode said. "We see a lot of couples where one person is a spender and the other is a saver, lt's best to discuss these differences and find out how each person handles their money. This keeps things honest and open, which will help to awfid surprises later on." When discussiing the types of spending patterns that each partner has, it is a good idea to discuss lifestyle too. According to Rhode, some of the best topics to discuss are: Mtow much of your income do you want to put in savings? -How will you decide how much a good photographer, can make or break your day is over, the pho- the only record of your photog- ment worth decided to get mar- .an approximate m searching for The better ones into the future, so rom friends and so be a valuable tool .photographers. ', is people you and look at other Make sure and album color Make sure the and clear and and dust free. to photogra+- on a luring the week. before y day for o should show you albums on dis- bums from in the € finished albums the albums the quality, in low light church. has a writ- you If the stu- Verbal clams, get contract will what they ago. The plan you ˘ou have the also name Who will be shoot- personally A good is patient, Y and always of person can action. king for some- at trends in Some people pictures turned Unposed candid and photo- ournalism and might bridesmaids in the rain, or around out- several seconds to recharge. When you return from your honey- moon. your wedding proofs will most likely be waiting for you to choose the right shots. Some questions to ask yourself when choosing the pictures include: Are everyone's eyes open? -Did someone look away'? Ms the lighting nice and white, or dark and off color? ~Is there anything in the back- ground that will look bad when blown up? ~On natural lighting shots without flash, is the exposure good or too dark'? ~Does lhe pictures make you smile when you see it'? Pictures look different when they are blown up, so make sure you really like each 8xI0. Once you decide which proofs to blow up to 8x10 for the album, make sure you have all the shots you want. When they come back, review each shot carefully with the photographer, as it wilt be perma- nent in your album. In order to save money, use some of the money you get from your wed- ding to pay for a $200-$300 album upgrade. Use disposable wedding cameras on tables at the reception and develop them at a discount store. Book ceremony and reception close together, choose a studio package with the lowest coverage hours and haggle down the cost with the studio before signing the contract. Another way to save is to try to get a bulk price frorfi the studio if you will be ordering a large number of prints from the same picture• And make sure your proofs from the wedding are included b COLLECTION can provide a from the way t, and make your of a stun- the bride and and star- try a different of away some black listen care- direction. your wed- ,tographer in getting Your when the up and as their lOtographer's hich take Here comes the bride Anyone who has ever been involved with planning a wedding knows of the turbulence and tears encountered betre a couple can be united, but arranging a second wed- ding can have more serious and fraught issues to deal with. Questions arise during the plan- ning of a second wedding, such as "Should my ex-in-laws be invited so they can see their granddaughter as a bridesmaid?" and "My step-father gave me away the first time-is it okay to ask him to do it again'?" Much of the difficulty in planning second weddings involves children from a previous relationship. One thing to keep in mind is that it is never possible to please all of the people all of the time. For children, a wedding can stir up painful memories about the first family and the breakup which followed. Some children harbor a secret hope that their parents will get back together again, and the re-mar- riage of a parent ends this hope. The news of a lbrthcoming wed- ding should be discussed between all the adults. The cooperation of an ex- partner, if at all possible, is most important when deciding who will tell the children and when they will be told. To marry without a parent's approval is one thing, but to marry without acceptance by your children, of any age, can be very painful. Children need to know whether they will be affected and what, if any- thing, will change for them. Research has shown that children not included in at least part of the ceremony often find it difficult to accept the steppar- ent. One dilemma may be for a child who thinks her "other" parent may feel left out and not want the child to take part in the second wedding. The children may feel the parent will see ...again this as an act of betrayal. These wor- ries need to be considered, and add to the importance of holding a discus- sion between the child's parents. A second wedding can also add meaning to the phrase "family wed- ding". Many second-time brides have contributed to the planning by includ- ing the children on their wedding day. Finally, spare a thought tbr the new groom or bride for whom this may be a first wedding. It all adds up to the same thing, the necessity of careful planning and preparation beforehand. A wedding is a landmark in any fami- ly and those adults and children who have been burned by the fallout of an earlier divorce or death of a parent will be particularly sensitive to the meaning of the occasion, with some planning, a lot of discussion, and a lit- tle bit of luck, it will be a day memo- ries are made of. Jobs grooms can do to help with wedding planning Many grooms-to-be think that slip- interested in being the person to pick ping the diamond ring on their out a great limousine or classic car for in the price, and it is listed on the con- honey's finger is the only job they the couple to be escorted around in on tract, have to do in planning for the wed- the Big Day. ding. As they watch the women they Whether the caterer is handling the ,n ___ ,/ ,,vwv/ t,' ''''f" .., j-C]D'..t'*""  " -- ,,,w v [" o,.,.t/f..%,ff,/,t / /k't"g'€  love running around at breakneck booze, or the engaged couple is on speed, trying to plan the wedding, their own, a groom may be able to The staffat Carlson Drug will be happy to help you what on earth can they do to help? help here by choosing refreshing bev- Even though it seems that in a erages for the wedding guests. select items for your bridal registry. • whirlwind of flowers, decorations and The honeymoon is a traditional gowns, there is nothing a groom can responsibility of the groom that could • ' Picture Frames ' Crystal :+:: add to planning the wedding, there is. possibly be the best job of the entire ' Black ttills Gold '' Home Decor O Many couples find it easier and more planning process. Organizing and fun to share in wedding planning planning a glorious, post-stress ' Kitchen & Lace Linens ', Glassware responsibilities, blowout vacation is a fun duty for the A groom that is interested in music groom. Carlson Drug can be helpful by volunteering to Finally, business-minded grooms research bands or DJs for the recep- may be able to assist their brides-to-be Your Locally Owned and Operated tion. Once the groom has done the with the paperwork, such as making legwork of gathering information, the sure contracts are signed, confirming ......._...._.. ,,_ , ,,. /nrl.ny couple can interview or review music vendors, and keeping track of pay- =Ighue choices together to make the final merits and receipts, which are all very decision, important in wedding planning. Any groom who likes cars may be + Ortonville • 320-839-6102 II li I IIII PROM IS S  I ...when you make yours, remember ours. ' | LIFETIME DIAMOND GUARANTEE OUR OWN LASER IDENTIFICATION TECHNOLOGY DJ. & Karaoke sand@maxminn.com Z ., .. IN-STORE SERVICE & REPAIR :L. : MUSIC FOR ALL , +'OU. OWNm*MONDCOLO% il : 2 MANUFACTURING CENTER  ", "A trusted name since 1959"  (a.k...a. Rock'N'RollFarmer) ,,-  RIEE00 os e 320 325-5190 or ,AyI .. .., .,, je ry. 1-800-939-6109 l ,,,- 9;5:30, Sat. 9-4 k ,=.- -.- .-. --.. --- = CLIP-N-SAVE • m -.- --.- ..-. --. JI It's Slmplel Just come into our store now! (before March 31, 2003) Register your wedding for anytime during 2003 and you will save 10% on each tuxedo rental. Free socks with each tuxedo rentall You can finalize sizes and tuxedo styles at any time. COME IN TODAY! Rent 7 Tuxedos, Get Groom's Tux FREE/ Ask about HALF OFF Ringbearer's Tuxedot Troy wants you to have a great time on your special day! O00nc00n' T00aeEs. o. • will help you plan the details of your wedding reception • offers a thorough pre-wedding consultation • has an extensive music library for a variety of tastes and ages • will get your guests movin" • will be professional • offers 10 years experience Troy Ackerman DJ and Owner www. dancin-tracks, com 5, 2003 INDEPENDENT Page 7b